Act rich, be rich in your home-based business
- Posted by admin on February 25th, 2009 filed in Business and Management
Plenty of experts tell us that we need to act rich in order to get rich. This is great advice; you must know the part before you play the part. But how one can act rich when one is struggling to survive in today’s awful economy and/or drowning in debt?
You do this by playing a mind game with yourself. Release the emotions you experience about your money situation. Are you stressed or worried? Those emotions (remember that emotion = energy in motion) are radiating out from you and are actually attracting more of the same old problems.
First of all, emotions form chemicals that course through your entire bloodstream and attach themselves to opiate receptors in each cell of your body. Addictive drugs work on the same receptors. This means that people can literally become addicted to their emotions. Suffer from chronic worry and stress? You may be on your way to addiction to those emotions… or may already be there. Even worse, the chemicals formed by negative emotions are toxic and could literally shorten your life in large enough doses.
If that’s not bad enough, it is very easy for people are you to pick up on your emotional state. During any face-to-face communication, the spoken word transmits 5% of the message. Your voice tone (pitch, rhythm, etc.) transmit 35%. The remaining 60% is totally nonverbal; it consists of your body language, gestures, and other “vibes” that you display whether you want to or not… and these signals are unmistakable to any observer. Anyone who has given job interviews will tell you that they can spot the desperate applicants a mile away, no matter how the applicant tries to cover it up. How much more or less likely would you be to hire the desperate person? Any worry, anxiety, desperation, etc. you feel will be detected by people around you. There is just no way to hide it or cover it up.
Acting rich has nothing to do with spending money and everything to do with releasing your negative emotions. It’s that simple. All negative emotions stem from fear. So, whatever bad emotions you may have about your situation translate into your being afraid of where you are and/or what could happen to you. Why are you afraid? Boil down all of the consequences of your fears coming true and you’ll find that what you’re really scared of is losing control and/or acceptance. Loss of control may equal late payments, bankruptcy, and/or foreclosure. Loss of acceptance could be the stigma associated with your situation and/or a damaged credit report that will haunt you for years. The bottom line is that all negative emotions stem from fear and all fear boils down to the fundamental human needs to be in control and to be accepted.
Acting rich is as simple as losing the need for control and losing the need for acceptance. It also means accepting responsibility, both for your current situation and for your future. You must also own your full responsibility for both whatever is happening to you today and whatever will happen to you in the future. You did this to yourself; nothing and no one did this for you or to you. If you want to know who is responsible (able to respond) to everything that’s wrong (and right) in your life, the answer is no further than your nearest mirror.
So here you are, fully accepting of responsibility, having let go of the need to control and be accepted. And you’re still in the same situation. What now?
Now you learn to manage what you do have. It’s like learning to fly a plane. Nobody starts off flying big jets. Instead, you learn to fly simple little propeller planes and eventually work yourself up to the big time. It’s the same with money. Learn to manage your finances and create a budget that pays you first, no matter what. Invest the first 10% of every dollar you earn in yourself, such as in a savings or retirement account and don’t touch it. Don’t worry for a second about anyone else! What if you don’t have enough to go around? Oh well. Take care of yourself first. Here’s the interesting part: If you do pay yourself the first 10% in the form of long-term savings or investment, then there will probably be enough left over to take care of everyone else!
Look at it this way: If you’re struggling to pay bills—especially debt—each month then you are literally working for other people and have every incentive to do as little as possible. Start paying yourself first by saving or investing that 10% no matter what… and you will suddenly have strong incentive to earn more money, which will help you pay down your bills that much faster. The paradox here is that you may feel like you’re doing the right thing by throwing all of your money at your debt but you’re actually killing the golden goose… yourself by doing that. Literally. Work with your creditors to reduce interest rates, payments, etc. The silver lining to this rotten economy is that creditors are extremely keen to work with you for mutual benefit. You may want to talk to a financial planner, read some books, or take some course on money management. Do whatever you need to do to make sure that you are managing your precious resources as efficiently as possible. Once you are an expert at managing your little bit of money, you will be able to manage a little more… and a little more… and a little more… and so on. This road ends in one place: with you being rich!
Next, decide what really matters to you in life. Here is the simple truth: You are going to die. Not for a long time, I hope, but your end is inevitable. If there is nothing beyond this life, if it all fades to black, then every second that passes is a second gone forever and you literally have no time to waste. If, however, there is some form of continuity (as I believe there must be, for purely scientific reasons), then my analogy says that the better you do in first grade, the better prepared you’ll be to handle second grade.
So… when your time comes and you review your life, powerless to do or change anything, what do you want to see? What do you want your life experiences and legacy to be? What exactly do you need to accomplish so that you can die without regrets? The last thought anyone should die with are “if only!” This question therefore gives you a very simple test that you must always keep in mind: If anything in your life (job, money, friends, etc.) is not contributing to your desired final vision for your life, then let it go and move on. This involves nothing less than finding and living your life’s mission. Everybody has a mission and you are no exception. If you are not living in accordance with that mission, then no wonder your financial situation stinks.
Remember that wealth has nothing to do with money. Wealth is a state of spirit, not of bank account. For example, if your mission in this life is to hang from a tree and study exotic reptiles in a distant land, then do it! Your bank account will probably be next to empty most of the time but so what? You will be living your passion and thus infinitely rich. Get the huge bank account and fancy stuff without living your life’s purpose and you’ll be even more miserable than you are right now (or, more accurately, you’ll feel whatever negative emotions you currently feel, only far more strongly).
What this all boils down to is:
- Learn to manage what you do have.
- Pay yourself first
- Find out exactly(!) what matters to you in this life and embrace that with all you have.
- Let go of and forget about all else.
This is what it means to act rich. Act rich and I dare say you’ll find yourself becoming wealthy.
The easiest way to learn how to be rich is to learn from rich people, people who have big bank accounts and big hearts. Someone like that is truly wealthy and also truly believes that a rising tide lifts all boats. I have a college degree and am in grad school… and here I am learning from a high school dropout. Jim Britt (who leads the MOXXOR WORKS Team) had everything going against him and he turned that into a life that has touched over a million people while also making him financially independent. I had a lot more going for me than he did and here I am having never touched a million people’s lives nor been overly generous to my finances.
The lesson here could not be any clearer: Throw out everything you’ve been told about money and everything you’ve been told to expect and all the measures by which you judge your own success. Hey, if any of those had worked, you wouldn’t be reading this article now, would you? Then go out and learn from people who are where you want to be, both financially and in life overall. The best ones to learn from are (not coincidentally) the ones who will be most interested in teaching/mentoring/guiding you. Jim and I co-founded the MOXXOR WORKS Team along with Louis Volpe and Sid Smith to do just that.
I am taking the exact steps I recommend to you as co-founder of the MOXXOR WOKRS Team… and my future looks brighter than it has in a very long time! Yes I would love for it to all happen today… but I have to keep reminding myself to let go and let things flow as they will. This wonderful universe we live in is trying to give us blessing every day. Getting rid of our expectations and demands is the only way to receive those blessings in the manner they are intended. This lesson is also clear: Everything that happens, no matter how dire, is a blessing if (and only if) you choose to see it that way. It doesn’t matter how bad any given event seems. Choose to see it as a blessing and be thankful, and you will be blessed every single day.
Let go!
Let go of your need to control and your need for acceptance. As I said, both of those stem from fear and fear is the source of all negative emotions. Fear really does snuff out your inner light, as you’ll learn when you read The Field by Lynne McTaggart (this book is a must read). The need to control stems from the fear of drifting along in the current and being swept out to sea. The need for acceptance comes from the fear of ostracism, which is the worst thing short of death that can befall a social animal like a human. Think about moments when you have surrendered… when you have acted without fear or in spite of fear. You exposed yourself with total faith. My friend, that is power. That power made you able to receive a blessing far larger than would otherwise have been possible.
Recall how you felt in those moments, and learn to observe your feelings moment by moment. When you catch yourself feeling a certain way, ask, “Does this move me closer to, or further away from, that feeling of total fearless surrender? If closer, fine! Experience the feeling and let it flow through you. If not, find a way to channel the energy you have built up (again, emotion is defined as energy in motion) into a more positive place. It takes practice, but you can do it. You can feel however you want to feel any time you want to feel it. So why not reward yourself for doing well and forgive yourself when you stray?
Your needs to control and be accepted (your fear) exist because at one point you faced real or perceived dangers. The distinction between “real” and “perceived” is blurry at best because everything is perceived. Your fear protected you from danger and thus helped save your life. Therefore, it is critically important to love your fear just as much as you love your “good” feelings. It has done its job of protecting you to perfection and now that job is done. Don’t ever resent your fear. You wouldn’t dream of resenting a delicious dinner once you finished eating it, so why resent an emotion that exists to protect you? You’ve eaten the meal of fear, which has kept you nourished… and now it’s time to leave the table because you don’t need it anymore. OK, that’s a bad analogy but you get my point: Acting rich is as simple as letting go of your fear.
Anthony Hernandez
Anthony Hernandez is a Certified Guerrilla Marketing Business Association Coach and author of Guerrilla Marketing Success Secrets with over 20 years of successful self-employment experience. He is proud to be a co-founding member of the MOXXOR WORKS Team. Visit the MOXXOR WORKS Team Web site to learn more about the MOXXOR WORKS Team and our home-based opportunity.
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